Y’all know me, at least those who allow me to speak into their brains with my usual brand of know-it-all bullshit. My opinion is no better than anyone else’s but a helluva lot better than many. I like to think that what I say is from my heart because its real with no chaser.

This is the deal good people, I try to stay away from the homo/hetero sexual discussion as its one of those things where you will be wrong to at least 50% of your audience. I hate the fact that there is no better word for a stand against homosexuality than homophobia. A phobia being an unnatural or irrational fear of something, but hey, we didn’t write the language we inherited it. Its the word we are stuck with though.

I think we are deemed homophobic due to our innate hypocrisy. Yeah I said it, hypocrisy. This hypocrisy has led us to ostracize an entire group of people based upon what we believe is morally correct, those morals instead being given to us from a people that we claim we despise. In any event, the fact of the matter is what is seen as homosexuality has existed as long as there have been human beings. Its evident in the animal world as well as and what are we but thinking animals. The vast majority of us are hetero, but a fraction are homo. That’s it, that’s all. There was a study done a few years back that seemed to show that there is a structure in the brain that is larger in women, smaller in men but about halfway between in self-identified homosexuals. I may have it backwards as the study was hailed as a possible breakthrough in settling the whole nature vs nurture argument. Are you born gay or do you end up that way by being indoctrinated/brainwashed/enticed, etc? Almost as soon as the study appeared it disappeared in the general sense. One may argue that society was not ready for a biological component to homosexual behavior, because then one couldn’t discriminate against them due to it being out of their control. You couldn’t beat it out of them as parents. You couldn’t “real man” role model it out of them. You couldn’t go to outdoor camp and pray it away.

Now what does this have to do with hip hop and general homophobia among the urban population. It speaks to our hypocrisy. We speak out against one thing but are crickets about another facet of the same thing. We speak out and bemoan the demise of “real men” but say nothing about uncle billy who no one talks about because he was a “sissy.” We speak out against Frank Ocean (who I think was a one hit wonder hence he’s not relevant, not some anti-gay conspiracy among black themed radio, which is owned and controlled by white media) but we give Nikki Minaj a pass. Or did we conveniently forget that young Onika Maraj came to fame touting her love of both women and men?

Therein lies the issue my good people. We separate gay people into three sets. Gay men, gay women (lesbians) and bi-sexuals. Now two of those sets are further broken down into sub-sets, one accepted, the others shunned. Gay man, shunned, gay woman (lesbian) shunned, bi-sexual man, shunned, bi-sexual woman, well she okay, she just a freak. Dumbest shit you ever heard in your life. If you gay, you gay. There is not exception for experimentation, no exception for going to jail, or college. You gay, you gay. Its okay to be gay. We shun gay men because we can’t get it out of our mind that this guy may be looking at me thirsty like a woman. (Don’t kid yourself bro, even if you Shemar Moore, all women ain’t looking at you like that) Gay men are not like pedophiles on the prowl looking for who they can turn out next. Gay clubs are not rape clubs they are places where gay people go to be amongst their own without fear of being persecuted. Same reasons we go to clubs we like. We shun gay women (outward lesbians, that is) because we see them as trying to be something that they are not. Sometimes that’s true but most times that’s where the “stud” feels comfortable on the spectrum of gayness (my term). We shun bi-sexual men because we see him as the archtypical “down low” brother. Its true in a lot of cases, but that’s his sex life. Believe me there are just as many if not more “down low” sisters out there as well.

Now here’s where the hypocrisy comes in. Anyone know the what the largest grossing subset of porn is in the world? Girl on girl sex. I’ll guarantee you that most of you on these forums screaming about how you hate a fag, and you’ll kill a fag if he looks at you the wrong way has a closet full of porn featuring girls on girls. Guess what King Kong, every time you and your boys ran a train on a girl when you were young, you participated in a homosexual act, every time you thought you’d do something special with your girl and invited her friend into your bed, homosexual act, every time you joined one of your friends with benefits and her friend, homosexual. If you been to jail for a long bit and you let that punk suck you off in the shower, homosexual act bro. So lets keep it 100.

I think we’d be better served to not see the advent of homosexuality as being the downfall of our community, but instead to confront the messages about homosexuality that are spread in our community. Taking the other side, I agree, I don’t like outward displays of your sexuality. I could give a flying fuck at a rolling donut who you sleep with or what gender they are. You don’t have to try so hard to let me know you’re gay. Most people I know that are gay, I don’t know they’re gay, that’s why they are successful doctors, lawyers, judges, athletes etc. Just like I wouldn’t accept my best friend pulling out his demonstration in my living room to accentuate the point that he has loads of sex with the ladies, (in fact, he would make my gaydar go off and we would cease to be really close friends) I don’t need you to dress in drag to make me notice your “gayness.” I really don’t care bro/sis, I really don’t. Most of us as guys already have at least one friend that we know is gay, we just don’t ask him about it because its none of our business. What we hear is the oft used phrase “just don’t bring that gay shit around me.” Bro, gay shit is ALL around you, everywhere you look. You are railing against gay people as if they are the problem. No the problem is a culture/society that needs to find some other group to pit you against. We’re so busy worrying about what a gay person does or doesn’t do that we don’t recognize that WE are NOT moving forward either. I know many will see this as a gay apology, its not. Its a real critique of what we are doing every day when we get pulled in this homo/hetero tug of war. In the end, its not your sexuality that’s the problem, its your intellect. And if you think that all of the family of UI is hetero, you need to wake up. Being conscious is not dependent on sexuality.

Drops mic, walks off stage dripping blackness!!!