Black women have to be the most railed-on “Ain’t-got-a-man-ain’t-looking-for-one-either” women on the planet Earth.

We know that celebrities aren’t much more than glorified overpriced human beings, so when a relatively well-known Black woman has a comment about her struggles with finding a good man, it is typically met with nodding ‘yes I know what you means,’ except when they say things like “They fall for the lady onscreen.”

The only way we come close to being able to relate to that is knowing that even all the good looks and fame in the world can’t keep us from falling within reach of some very shallow and superficial men who are in it for the chase. Then as soon as they find out the bling, even the off-screen bling that they made up about us in their heads, isn’t all its cracked up to be, they’re gone or at least gone fishing.

Here’s where the boys get separated from the men every time without fail. Just an FYI, Tyler Perry said the same about a lady friend that he broke up with after he realized she just wanted what he could do for her. He was on the verge of the fame he has now and said that she started ‘acting different’ from the person he had known previously.

Must be pretty hard out there on the Dating Game for the celebrity ilk; says a lot about how wrapped up in television and movies people really are on all fronts.

In Henson’s case and all others like her (she is a single Black mother who lost her husband to a murder incident and briefly lived on welfare), there must always be some kind of “bling test” in place that they use to see if the people they date are into it for the right reasons.

Taraji P Henson, Superstar, Supermom, Superwoman. LOL

“Hard to maneuver when you’re in show business, ” she said. “It shrinks the search pool. I don’t want an actor. I want a life partner. A real one. I had a guy, but cut to the chase. He was starstruck. They fall for the lady on-screen. Face it, I don’t wake up looking like Beyoncé. I think I’ll have to start hunting abroad. Maybe get off the Northern Continent. I know you just cannot have two narcissists together.”

Maybe get off the Northern continent? she said.

Certainly she’s met more menfolk since she became a star than most of us will meet in a lifetime, married, single and otherwise. If she’s talking about looking somewhere “off the Northern continent” that says a lot more than it needs to about us Black women having a better shot at a meaningful relationship if we’re not famous than if we are.

Guess it’s true: Looks and money can’t buy everything. And I might add: Even if money could buy love, would we want it like that? Probably not.

In the end, all men fall for the “lady onscreen,” the actress who is nothing like the performance of the ‘airs’ she has to put on to get his attention in the first place.

I call it “they- all- watch- wwayyyy- too- much- TV-syndrome.” They even look at some of us and see Taraji Penda Henson. The real question is, can they hold it together after the house lights come up and they find out we’re not you, Cover Girl?

BTW, Taraji, all us ‘everyday Black women’ are relatively certain that you and Beyonce are equally matched on looks when you first wake up in the mornings.

That’s why the face gods designed makeup, even on other continents.