Why she REALLY won’t date you.

by | Apr 1, 2014 | Blog | 0 comments

Hello UI peeps. This is one that will probably vilify me in the eyes of many men in the UI community. Basically I’m calling out all the punk ass dudes and weak ass brothas in the UI community and in the world. We see it all the time, people whining about how “Women these days don’t want a good man.” And also “If a man gives you his undying devotion and love then he is thirsty and unwanted.” There are a lot of men who feel this way. Single… Alone… And looking for someone to blame, men now days have bought into this idea that women only want whats bad for them. Well… To that I say Bullshit. The real problems are as follows…

rejection11.) There is simply a lack of confidence in the community as a whole.

2.) There is also a communication barrier that has been put up that women don’t even realize exists.

3.) Believing in the age old adage that women like bad boys.

4.) There is a delicate balance between Asshole and Bitch that has somehow been forgotten and lost in today’s society.

First I would like to talk about confidence. Confidence is lacking amongst men today. There is an unsure vibe that has been caused by many things. The media for example has made the unsure anti-hero the champion, getting the girl and winning in the end the norm. It is what has been given to us for the past 20-30 years or so in movies, television and much more. Even in the fashion industry “Nerd Chic” is a prevalent fashion that celebrates the awkward and unconfident. This culture and way of life is one of the biggest lies that Hollywood and the entertainment industry has told us. Think for yourself… How many nerds/dorks/weak hearted men have you seen with the girl of your dreams? The answer is zero. Yet Hollywood gives us this image everyday. I am no Casanova but I do know how to talk to a woman, and also get her to at least give me a chance. The answer is simple and it is confidence. Women love a confident man. More so than any muscle bound dude with money and a foot long dick… They want a man to be confident. Most women who are with their partner want to feel safe and protected. Now… Feeling safe and feeling protected does not just mean you can kick someone’s ass if need be, but it means can she look to you for emotional security and protection. Part of that is does she see the ability for you to lead the relationship if need be? Can she also have confidence I the fact that you can emotionally pick her up and carry her the rest of the way if she falters? Now you always bending to her every whim and beck and call shows her that you are not a leader but more so an assistant and not the “Man” that she needs. Also, if you are unsure she will be unsure because she is looking to you to be a rock that she can build a firm foundation on, and not playdough that she can form and shape. Her house will then collapse and sink the minute you begin to shift and bend to her will instead of showing strength and leadership.

How do we know all this? How do we know that confidence is what they need inorder to give you a chance at being their king? You don’t. You honestly never will unless you read between the lines and listen to what they say. No woman will ever come out and tell you that they need you to be more confident. It’s something that they expect from you. I know that it would be easier for women to simply tell us that they want us to have more of a back bone but if they did then your confidence would be completely fake. If a woman were to tell you to wear a pink boa so that you could have sex with them, then you would do it. However wearing a pink boa is not something that you would normally do and women know that. So replace the boa with confidence. If it does not come natural to you now, it will surely not later and if that’s what she wants then you are simply faking the funk so to speak. This is why she will never tell you what she wants… This is why you have to guess. Women say they don’t play games and they don’t… Women test you at every turn before she gives you the time of day. There is a serious communication barrier and it’s only because we as men don’t listen, nor can we read beteen the lines. This is how the female mind communicates. We are generally more straight forward and direct while women make many inferences. Once you understand that then you will have the ability to listen and therefore know exactly what she wants.

The believe that all women want the bad boy is the biggest mistake that we make as men. Now this one is going to break your hearts and challenge everything you ever thought about how women behave. NO and I repeat… NO WOMAN WANTS A BAD MAN. I know you are all saying im crazy and that you see it everyday. However, it’s not the bad in the man that gives them the attention and not you… It’s the confidence. Think about it. When you really don’t give a rat’s ass about what it is, or don’t give 2 craps about the situation, you have zero expectation. There now is a level of confidence that compares to no other because you do not fear the consequences of something you don’t care about. That’s why the so-called bad boy gets the girl. His confidence and swagger is on level 100 because he does not care about the woman in question. Women however are easily fooled by this confidence and feel that it translates into the confidence nit takes to lead and protect, which it does not. It is up to you as a man to show them what real confidence is. Yes she will question it over and over again. Giving up however is a clear indication of non-leadership and will be an instant fail of the manhood test. Believe me they want to give you a chance but you still have to pass the manhood tests that are given. Sorry fellas but there is no way around that. Leaders have to lead by example and if you give up after the first opposition then it shows what kind of leader you will be in the relationship.

It’s all a huge balancing act. You can be a good man and confident, confident and an asshole, and also a bad person the whole way aound. Few have truly learned how to balance the 2 because not too many of us have examples to go off of.  All we hav ever seen growing up on TV and n real life are either harsh men who are over bearing and in total control, or the 90’s R&B “Do-Boy” that will drink a woman’s bath water if she asked. Neiter one is a ood example but for most of us it is all we had. Then there are those of us who were raised by single mothers with no male rolemodels. Not all, but we have to remember that more than likely she as scorned and is now going to raise a child in the way that the man who knocked her up wasn’t. That means zero dog like tendencies, and many times due to anger zero confidence. Although they chose this man because of his confidence level they are now rasiing a son to not be like his father to the point of emasculation. Don’t believe the hype. You can be a confident man who is also not a dick. You just have to find your balance and what works for you. Too muck confidence and you come off as an ass… Too little and you are seen as weak. The formula is simple enough, yet hard is the execution. Find your balance.

The point in all this is that confidence is the key component here. Yeah you can whine all you want to in memes and in blogs about how women don’t want good men, and how all women want is someone to treat them poorly, but frankly that shit is weak. It is a sign that you are not a good man after all but would rather blame you own inadequacies on a woman… And that my friends is no good for anybody. So do not be a punk, be confident in yourself and in what you have to offer. Don’t ask her out. Tell her you would like to go out, then tell her what time you’d like to pick her up or meet her. Look her in the eyes and don’t be afraid to wrap her in your arms while telling her so. Your confidence will go a lot further than what you could ever imagine. If she says no the first time then so what. She now is thinking about you and you are officially on her radar. Happy Hunting UI… Happy hunting

 

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