“No longer will it be said in Jerusalem that the parents eat the sour grapes and the children’s teeth are set on edge.” (Jeremiah 31:29)

Generational curses are prevalent in the Black community and have been since nearly the beginning of time.

Maybe CeeLo Green hasn’t read a Bible, but it says “By the words of your mouth, you are justified; and by the words of your mouth, you are condemned.” Selah. To you and yours.

Rape is one of the most disgusting things a man can do to a woman, or even to another man (and for those exceptional moments when a woman rapes another female or a little boy, this is for you, too…no, little boys don’t always enjoy being child-molested by grown@ women, either).

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” (Matthew 7:12) does not always apply directly to you. It can apply to YOUR future generations, even if it doesn’t come back as direct payment TO you.

This ‘curse’ can be handed down throughout a series of generations, because you are your children, and your children are you.

So if you can envision the face of your own daughter when you invade the private and personal space of a female of any age, uninvited, then go right ahead and do it. That will, one day, be your own child, male or female–and you cannot stop it because you have set off a precedent, the mark, of many generations to come.

The ending of the “vicious cycles” of abuse, spiritual harassment, molestation and rape in the Black family begin with you. Yes, you know who you are.

Even when a woman is of no direct blood relation to you, she is still your Sister and Kinswoman, and it is your job as a Black man to protect all Black girls and women — even those who ‘think’ they don’t need your help and will spin around and “ack a fool” on you when you try to help them. If they don’t get it at that moment, they will later.

My Aunt Mabel, God rest her soul, once brought it back to a certain young man who said to her “it’s time for you light-skin-ded Black folks to stop taking advantage of your skin color in society.” She said “If Black men had been where they were supposed to be when they were supposed to be there, there wouldn’t BE no light-skinned Black folk.”

Okay? Okay. OK! She took it back to the Garden of Eden with that one statement.

Even with the story of Adam & Eve, whether you believe they were two real people or just a fictitious made-up fairy tale, just where the hay was Adam when Eve was so busy –in her own ‘I just got here’ wide-eyed doe-in-headlights’ naivetè– being slicked out by a lying demon of a snake, or something serpentine as the Bible defines it?

 

No, I’m not “man-bashing.” That’s never a point when these things are said.

This is not said for the purpose of contention, but for the purpose of enlightening the thought processes of the Black man, as it should be, from the moment he wakes up and takes his first deep breath of the day. Black women are his responsibility even when Black women don’t know it and won’t acknowledge it.

It’s just expedient for us to face some facts about the Blackman’s responsibility to Blackwomen, and even to a Black woman who doesn’t have the sense enough to know she’s being protected at the time.

Many Black women are “hard” and “hard-looking” and torn up and worn out because they’ve had to BE men, had to learn to protect themselves when no one else would.

Take heed.

There is only one way to stop the Vicious Cycle that continually kills us, our families, and our children; and it begins and it ends with the way you treat Black women. Yes, YOU.

Even if she offers herself to you under precarious voluntary but ‘seemingly involuntary’ circumstances, you know what is the right thing to do. It’s not that important, not only because it is rape, but because it will resurface again in a way you don’t expect when you least expect it.

Too many Black women are often afraid and think they have no choice though they could have said “No.” Her life determines the lives of the next generations for many decades to come.

It’s on you to Walk Away, regardless.

REFERENCES

Jackson Katz: Violence Against Women is a Men’s Issue

Tony Porter: A Call to Men

Leslie Morgan Steiner: Why Domestic Violence Victims Don’t Leave

Rev. Dr. E.V. Hill Preaches His Wife’s Funeral, Part I

Rev. Dr. E.V. Hill Preaches His Wife’s Funeral, Part II