#AcknowledgeHerPain – Before She Becomes Another Hashtag

by | Oct 8, 2017 | Opinion | 0 comments

A Black woman named Veronica Wells writes a scathing blog post about how Black men are the terrorists in the lives of a lot of Black women, and sight unseen, just one more Black man is awakened to prove he is a better writer rather than to acknowledge why the Sistah would say such a thing.

He wants to use her blog talking point as leverage to prove to whites and other Black people that he is more articulate and doesn’t appreciate being “invisible-ized” as a Black man by another Black woman, but he never took the time out to acknowledge what would make her say such a thing. If she had to blog about it, maybe that’s the only way she knew to make someone listen.

We already know it’s not ALL Black men, but there are certainly too many of them to make her point INVALID.

Maybe it has nothing to do with the fact that Black women are more than 90-percent harmed and damaged by Black men before a racist can ever get his or her hands on her, but to demand that she be BlackFirst, after all, is putting another bullet in a wound that is bleeding out by the minute. That wound is the fact that even the Black Man is not acknowledging her pain or caring that she hurts enough to call him a terrorist. She can forget that being acknowledged by a white man unless he’s making up fairy tales about being the ‘Mighty Whitey’ in her life.

You get mad, sir, about being “invisible” as a Black man, then turn around and make her “invisible” as a Black woman by refusing to DEAL WITH THE ISSUE, such that it is.

Then when she returns the favor by tossing up her hand and making you disappear, it’s a problem.

Isn’t that the same thing as white people saying white Mass Shooters in a crowd of people are not terrorists, but then calling Black males who truly only shoot one another with white folks’ guns for the most part, “super-predators” who must be brought to heel. Isn’t that the kind of response to her pain that helps put so many Black men in jail and prison in the first place?

Who has to care? YOU didn’t.

And yes, God made Man first. It is HIS responsibility, not hers, to fix it. So …

How’s that “get her back thingy” working out 4ya?

I don’t care what anyone says, in spite of the fact that Black Woman is the most downtrodden and put-upon of all women on Earth, #bydesign, she will be the first one to run to the defense of her Black Man, in spite of it all. He is her son and her brother, after all, not just her sex partner and general court jester.

He rides her back to the decisive win, then leaves and her children to fend for themselves while he pursues personal favoritism with white skin.

That’s a quick fast phone call to white supremacist DFACS for abandonment, and the KKKlan Kkkops for abuse.

That ain’t healing between you and her, Mane, that’s a revolving door cycle of begging the WRONG people to “see” you as visible when she just told you what SHE already saw.

Do you care? Or is your invisibility status with THEM more important than her pain?

DEAL with the pain, not with what you think about what she thinks … cuz ain’t nothing more ‘invisible’ in America, and in this world, than a Black woman.

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Lifetime’s “Any Day Now” came yeah-close to describing our daily truths in real terms, and Tyler Perry hit the FULL MONTE Bingo card stroke with “Diary of A Mad Black Woman” before he sold his soul to the devil’s advocates.

A little old mixed in with the new, and ‘Helen McCarter’ found her lost soul all by herself, while talking to God about it instead of a Facebook friend. A little old mixed in with the new and ‘Renee Jackson’ found herself dealing with a white female “baby Mama” with a mostly broke@ drinking skunk of a husband. Renee takes her earned law degree back to a lowdown southern sundown town that never forgot it was Ol’ Dixie in spite of the fact that she no longer has to ride on the back of the city bus and is driving a Mercedes. Three generations of stories lost between 1865 and 1985. That’s 120 years of Black women in America whose real stories have never been told.

If you want to “go Hollywood,” sir, and try to impress white skin, at least acknowledge that now Black women have gone from slaves and maids and fast hot washerwomen in mainstream media to whores and female pimps lusting after powerful white males gods. No longer the ho on the Dallas Red Light District, she is now the white man’s whore (the “bed wench” they call it) in The White House. Ain’t nothing more subjugated and invisible than a Black woman, even in the REAL world. The way they portray her on a reality show is the way they see her in real life.

If her Black man isn’t gay in the media, he’s in love with a white woman who will do him all kinds of dirt while he laps up behind her like a sick dog in a bid that can be called a lot of things, but one of them ain’t LOVE. More like obsession and demon possession than LOVE.

#acknowledgeherpain

If you can only do for her what a white man can do for her even better, at least HE has money and power. Yours , to be exact. The power God gave YOU from the very beginning of time.

You want Black unity, but yet you divide and split hairs among the one Woman who gives your Black Ass life and stands with you even when you take her For Colored Girls when the Rainbow is Enuf “stuff”.

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In Memory of “Hashtag Sandra Bland”

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